The loser status of your teen’s new fling was evident the first time you met him or her.You noticed the unkempt hair, the cigarette lighter in his or her back pocket.And all this time, you thought your son or daughter was smarter than that, and would choose people in their live who would add substance rather than bring them to a lower stoop of the food chain. Do you wait it out and hope that your teenager is simply dating a loser in order to make your skin crawl.Perhaps this is the teen version of a toddler drawing on newly painted walls with a sharpie. Or, maybe this is just a life experience that your child needs to go through on his or her own, in order to make better decisions the next time. ) Parents of teens are constantly trying to maintain the delicate balance of keeping the lines of communication open – and instilling good values in their kids.You cringed when you heard him or her butcher the English language, and wondered how your child – a straight A student thus far, could possibly bear to be around someone that cannot use prepositions correctly.Of course, as a parent – you also noticed the choice in clothing, and immediately assumed that this new person in your teen’s life was raised by a pack of wolves, or at least in a home void of a washing machine.Saint John Paul II refers to the great dignity and mystery of the design of women as the “feminine genius” (Letter of Pope John Paul II to Women).It’s no coincidence that the creation story in Genesis builds in beauty and is crowned with the creation of Eve.
The recent trend among early adolescents is for boys and girls to socialize as part of a group.
Q: Your husband’s last blog How to Take a Girl on a Real Date had great advice for guys, but what about the other way around? He says if they do this then they will never have a bad date.
A: The number one thing Brian stresses for guys to do on a date is to uphold the dignity of a woman.
For parents, young love seems more like a hodge-podge of drama and mistakes where adult insight is somehow trumped by teenage hormones and declarations of ‘love.’ Here we have young folks who cannot even get their rooms cleaned in a timely manner, who can barely survive an hour without being attached to a cell phone, and who forget to do homework and still have to be reminded to brush their teeth, yet they somehow think they are mentally equipped to choose ‘partners’ of their own.
And as with most things, the parents are the ones left shaking their heads and wondering why their teenager is dating such a loser.