No texting during your date, no complaining, no general fuckboy behavior, and no attachments.By the end of the night, I realized that this was one of the most powerful moments in my dating life.To protect their identities, I can’t get more descriptive. I would like to have interactions where I’m not in “Rebecca mode”. Perhaps I’m only feeling this way because Valentine’s Day is around the corner.All that you need to know is that they came from different backgrounds, but shared one thing in common. As cliched as it sounds, meeting each of them felt like reuniting with a long-lost friend. We had shared interests, talked about “normal things” like watching La La Land and feeling miserable after, why Coltrane makes for the best rush hour playlist, that new overpriced Nasi Lemak restaurant that’s actually really good. In their own special way, I felt like I shared with each of them a connection that went beyond the usual escort – client relationship. But being in the business of intimacy, sometimes, and with the right person, the line between “business” and affection starts to blur. Hiring a lovely and sexy escort to have a one-night stand is what every male dreams of.
From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology, dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine.I don’t act on my crushes because I like to remain professional, but can I really control who I develop a crush on?When I first realised I was crushing on a client, I panicked. It’s so unfair that I meet such an amazing person, only to keep things professional.We shared our plans for the future, talked about our fears – not just serious stuff but banal nonsense like how I’m terrified of birds (brown pigeons, in particular). It’s confusing for me because I know I’m supposed to maintain emotional boundaries with clients.Playing the part of a loving, fun girlfriend is not hard, but during times like these – it becomes a little too easy.With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person.